Today I had to tell someone he had a cancer
of the jaw.
This was not altogether unexpected. He had turned up in my clinic a couple of weeks ago with a large ulcerating area in his right mandible, where the gum edges were raised, roughened and hard – like cartilage – to the touch. He’d first gone to some other dentist who, instead of even considering the possibility of there being a cancer – and for the life of me I can’t imagine how that might happen – extracted a couple of teeth. This extraction did nothing to improve the situation, of course, not least because the person concerned is also a diabetic with a blood sugar level between twice and three times the normal maximum.
If I were in a jokey mood I might have said
he had blood in his sugar stream, but I am far from a jokey mood today.
When the now enlarged – owing to the
extractions – wound in his jaw showed no sign of healing, the man concerned,
let’s call him Mr H, went to another dentist. This second person said he had a
fungal infection and put him on a course of antifungal medicines. Guess whether
that worked?
In any case, as soon as I’d had a good look
at his mouth and jaw – the jaw was actually distended at that point to almost
twice the normal size – I decided on a biopsy. I excised a couple of wedges of
tissue from two points of the ragged ulcer and sent them to a pathology lab for
histological examination. Today, I got the report – and, to my overwhelming
lack of surprise, it was, like almost all mouth and jaw cancers, a squamous cell carcinoma.
Now, a squamous cell carcinoma of the
mandible is far from incurable. It will, however, require surgery with the
removal of a large part of the right side of Mr H’s lower jaw, along with
radiotherapy. Since carcinomas – unlike the other main type of cancer, sarcoma –
spread mostly by the lymphatic system, not by blood, he might lose the lymph
nodes along the right side of his neck, but hopefully nothing more than that.
I explained all this to Mr H. I told him in
clear terms the kind of cancer he had, the likely prognosis, the fact that it
was totally curable and the fact that said cure would require surgery, and of
what kind. I realised at an early stage, though, that I was, basically, talking
to a blank wall. He wasn’t taking any of it in.
“Can’t it be treated with medicine?” he
asked me rather pathetically. I reminded him that his two previous dentists had
been pumping medicines into him with no effect. And then he asked me if I was totally
sure that it was cancer, whether there might not be a mistake.
I must explain that this kind of behaviour
isn’t actually totally unknown to me. A large number of people tend to become
so frightened that they might have cancer that they avoid even getting it
checked just in case it could possibly
turn out to be cancer, as though the act of getting it checked is what causes
cancer. Some of them, ethnic Bunglees especially, won’t even utter the word “cancer”;
they’ll ask imidly if it could be “something bad”. In the case of Mr H, I’m
pretty sure that if he’d had had an inkling in advance that it might be cancer
he too would have avoided treatment.
Anyway, as I went over the report again
with him and explained exactly what the problem was, he suddenly broke down. His
brothers, he said, were both dead, and he was the only surviving sibling, and
he was willing to do anything to avoid a surgery. The whole thing was extremely
distressing to me as well.
I have too much of an emotional connection
with the people I treat. It’s not a good thing to have a temperament like that
for this kind of job.
I’m glad to be able to say that Mr H seems
to have pulled himself together enough to have gone to a hospital in town with
an oncology department – he called to tell me he was going – but there are a
lot more like him who would literally rather die than face up to the fact that
they have cancer. I am not including people who choose not to have treatment
deliberately after knowing that they have a cancer; I’m talking about those too
terrified to face their diagnosis.
And of course there are the other lot – the
scum that feed off the desperation of cancer patients and their relatives.
Those people are beyond all forgiveness.
I had an uncle who died of lung cancer. It
was a fairly protracted death, and during this process his wife – an extremely
credulous woman – dragged him to all manner of astrologers, faith healers and
other vampires who did this, that, and the other to “heal” him. Of course none
of it worked, but they made good money out of it anyway. And you know that if they ever got cancer, they’d make pretty
sure they were treated by the best doctors, and paid for it with the money they
got from duping the poor and desperate.
Hell, at this point I’m willing to call them a cancer as well.
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As a 47-year-old woman who so far has not summoned the courage to get a mammogram, I get it. Fear itself is a kind of cancer.
ReplyDeleteIt's indeed a frightening subject, but sticking your head in the ground and hoping it goes away generally doesn't work (the rest of your body soon ends up in the place your head is).
ReplyDeleteIf no other treatment is working, hell, I can't blame a person for trying anything, but if one of those charlatans stops a person from getting treatment that can cure them to sell them snake oil that's another matter.
The end result of course is we all end up dead of something at some point. At least if anybody has found a way around that they haven't bothered to let me in on it.
It is definitely not easy to be on either side of that conversation... I don't think that we are meant to be robots, no matter what profession and stop to feel compassion for those who are faced with a cancer diagnosis. It does take a certain amount of bravery and patience to find out and not let the fear win. (and I can say this after 2 years of screening and surgery to remove a tumor this year). It just isn't meant to be easy - any of it.
ReplyDeleteThere's a scene in "Breaking Bad" where the main character is being told he has lung cancer, and he's sort of in a daze. The doctor says, "Do you understand what I am saying?" and the character says, "Yes, it's just that you have a mustard stain on your shirt."
ReplyDeleteIt aseems like sometimes, it's denial, and sometimes, it's just an inability to process the information.
What a terrible thing for you to have to do.
Bill, How terrible for you and Mr. H. I can completely understand the blank stare thing and incomprehension on his face (me, when I was diagnosed with breast cancer). It's so good for Mr. H., however, that he finally found someone who could give him a correct diagnosis and thus, at least gave him the option of being treated.
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