You know how we Indians love and honour our
women? Oh, you don’t? Well, we Indians love and honour our women. Don’t take it
from me. Take it from our moral guardians.
What moral guardians? Oh, there’s no shortage of moral guardians in this country. It’s lousy with moral guardians, whether Hindu, Christian, Muslim, Sikh or whatever. You can’t throw a stone without hitting a moral guardian, who will then wax wrathful and throw ten thousand stones at you.
So, yes, we do love and honour our women. A
classic example how much we love and honour them was this little episode today
where a fifteen-year-old girl in the state of Bihar had one of her eyes shot
off because someone wasn’t happy with a shave.
Now this kind of demands an explanation, so
in brief, this is what happened: the girl’s father is a barber. She was in his
barbershop when a couple of characters, at least one of whom was known to the
father by name, entered. Apparently the guy wasn’t happy with the quality of
the shave the barber gave him, so the two of them began beating him up. When
the girl intervened, they grabbed her dupatta
(a shoulder wrap). And, when she turned to look at them, they shot her in the
eye.
On many levels, this is a perfect
illustration for the dysfunctionality of modern Indian society. First, of
course, is the reaction of the character who didn’t get the shave he wanted:
his immediate recourse to violence is something Indians are very familiar with.
We love to maintain a national myth of being peace-lovers, but in reality we’re
an extremely violent people with incredibly short fuses, especially when our
tempers are exacerbated by the pressures of modern city living (and I’m not
excluding myself either: I plead guilty to recurrent road rage).
So, not being happy with the way his beard
was handled, our anti-hero’s first reaction was to lash out – quite literally. And
then, when the girl tried to stop him, his second reaction was to assault her
instead.
You see, we love and honour our women so
much that they bear the brunt of physical and mental assaults, rapes and
molestation, day in and day out. Only a few weeks ago there was a case in
Guwahati, just a hundred kilometres from here, where a mob stripped and assaulted a teenage girl in full view of TV cameras, and that was in the heart of a
large city. In the small towns and villages, women are beaten, raped and worse,
probably many times a day.
And then, let’s not forget the gun. I’ve
given up arguing gun ownership with Americans, and come to the conclusion that
they can own as many hundred guns each as they want as long as they keep their
love for firearms within their own borders. But there’s an Indian gun lobby,
too, which draws its inspiration from the American, which tenaciously tries to
propagate the myth that gun ownership is a good and desirable thing, and which
claims that Indians have been systematically disarmed by tough gun laws.
Now, although gun permits aren’t as easy to
come by in this country as in some other nations (the state I live in, for
example, doesn’t give out gun licences unless one can prove one’s life is under threat, which means in practice that it
does not hand out gun licences), in absolute numbers it has one of the highest
gun ownership levels on earth. Some of these guns are illegal, made by
gunsmiths on the sly, but a large number of the firearms in the hands of private citizens
are obtained legally with official permits. Now, what do you suppose happens
when people have short-fused tempers and guns ready to hand, and a woman to use
them on?
Someone gets shot, that’s what.
I suppose one might say the teenage girl in
Bihar was lucky in a way. At least she’s only lost one eye. A few years ago,
there was an infamous occasion in Delhi where a celebrity bartender (a model named
Jessica Lal) was shot dead in front of a roomful of people (among whom was
Steven Seagal, as it happens) by someone called Manu Sharma because she told him
the bar was closed and he was too late to get a drink. Since that roomful of
people developed collective amnesia, it took years to bring the culprit to
book. And there have been many other cases, with women high on the list of
victims.
And, yes, I’ve been threatened with
physical harm more than once. If one of those people had a gun to hand, I can’t
answer for what might have happened. And if I’d had a gun, I might have used it
pre-emptively, as well.
Not that any of this addresses the root
cause of the problem, though. With mounting overpopulation, stress and social
breakdown, the girl in Bihar will soon be just a statistic.
For the moral guardians none of that
matters. Nor does it matter when girls are selectively aborted or murdered as
soon as they’re born. Woe betide any unmarried couple seen holding hands in
public, or kissing, though.
That matters, very much. Then it is the end
of the world, unless someone's taught a lesson.
And if that someone's a woman who winds up dead, that's just too bad.
Ae, I know what you mean when you talk about debating gun ownership with the Americans, I too, have bowed out from that one. It would be nice if they did keep their overuse of guns within their own borders but between the current overload of American-led wars and the overload of American paranoia via their TV programmes, violent movies and video games, they do tend to influence the rest of the world, particularly amongst our young.
ReplyDeleteThat said, this post was not really about them of course, rather a discussion on the combination of short fuses, and gun ownership, not only gun ownership even, but guns being carried by mad people in a mad world, a world where people are not learning any alternatives such as negotiation and discussion instead of aggression and violence. I don't know much about this situation in India, but I do think violence is on the increase globally and I do think that people winding up living crammed up together, as though on shelves or boxes does not help. And violence is so often played out on the bodies of women as your post so demonstrably informs. Kia ora Bill, it is at least good to know that some people do care.
Bill,
ReplyDeleteFirst off, thank you for a very powerful article.
There is way too much violence, gun violence included, in this world we live in today.
I agree that much of it seems to be driven by the US "attitude" regards all types of violence. Just look at the movies, TV shows, video games, and other forms of "entertainment" from the USA. Violence "solves" all the problems for the "hero". A shining example, the series of "Dirty Harry" movies from a certain Mr. Eastwood. OK, maybe that was a cheap shot and a very easy target, still, if the shoe fits and all that.
As a former US Marine and a combat veteran of the imperial war in Vietnam, I despise and deplore the violence of my home country. I am saddened by the influence the US media of all types that seems to have greatly influenced the rest of the world.
Thank you for showing me how violent society in India is particularly regards gun violence. I had no idea that there were so many privately owned guns in India. There is much that I have not learned in my nearly 65 years on this planet.
Women do seem to be the object of much of the violent acts around the globe. They are seen as easy targets I suppose. Personally, I do not believe in violent behavior and violence against women and children is the worst.
One could make a valid argument that over crowding is in part why there seems to be so much more violence. That may be true, but it is still an excuse. As my drill instructor told us about excuses and a certain body part, everybody has at least one. I prefer honesty to excuses. Blame my Dad for that, he taught me that honesty was best policy. Also, an honest person does not have to remember so many "stories", they just are truthful and that is it, one story, the truth.
We all need to try and not be so quick to anger. We sure need to be much slower to respond to anger or some personal "slight" with violence. If we were to treat others as we want to be treated, maybe this world could be a bit less violent.
Just my 2 cents worth. Now, I'll get off my soap box and head back to my corner.